Our Story
D1&D22025đź’•
First Meet
LOVE IN THE QUIETEST START: A JOURNEY ORCHESTRATED BY GRACE
As is my custom and a personal ministry of kindness, I often send birthday messages and prayers to people in my circle—even those I might not know too well. On May 22nd, 2020 Damilola was celebrating her birthday, and I reached out to greet her and pray for her via WhatsApp. Interestingly, we had never spoken before that day.
What started as a simple birthday message became the seed of something greater. One conversation led to another, and before we knew it, we were speaking consistently—daily, even.
Our chats flowed effortlessly, touching on life, purpose, ministry, academics, relationships, and so much more.
But as the bond between us grew, I began to feel uneasy, not because anything was wrong, but because it felt unfamiliar. I didn’t really know her to the extent that I mistakenly saved her number as Grace instead of Damilola.
She eventually became a beacon of grace to me. My Charis and heartbeat.
The Conviction
There was also a significant gap between us: I was in my fifth year in the Medical School; she was in her second year in Nursing. I couldn't say I "liked" her in the romantic sense yet, but I couldn’t deny that something meaningful was forming. Still, I took my confusion and concerns to God in prayer. It was during that time that the Lord began to work on my heart. The first thing He did was to gently but firmly rebuke what He called subtle pride. I didn’t realize it at the time, but my hesitations and internal resistance were rooted in pride. Perhaps shaped by assumptions or excessive carefulness. I repented and humbled myself. Then came a profound reassurance. The Lord spoke to my heart, saying, "Do not throw away gold just because you see dust or dirt on it. Refine it, and it will shine with beauty, honor, and glory." In that moment, I saw Damilola differently—not just as someone I enjoyed speaking with, but as a treasure God had brought into my life, meant to walk with me and shine alongside me. Finally, God gave me a solemn word: "If you lose her, it will pain you." It was clear—I needed to stop overanalyzing and start opening my heart to what He was building. From that point on, I became more intentional about knowing her deeply. Affection grew naturally.
Proposal
On October 7th, 2020 I opened up my heart and officially asked her to be in a relationship with me. To my surprise, she said she had seen it coming—but had initially wrestled with the idea, especially because she never imagined herself marrying a pastor. But God has His own ways of writing beautiful stories, and I’m grateful He wrote ours. The decision to go into a marital relationship with her has been one of the best decision of my life by obeying the leading of the Spirit. Our relationship is not without storm and challenges but we have held each other's hands through every phase and every season and advancing victoriously. To to the glory of God on the 14th of December 2024, I officially proposed to her and on the 12th of April 2025, we had our introduction and now we're preparing for our wedding and life together.
